I'm Dr Monika Wieliczko, a clinical psychologist and a widow. Just like you, I went through a horrendous experience of losing my life partner. I rebuilt my life from scratch and found love after loss. 

I made many mistakes on the way, felt confused and unsure of how to navigate the online dating world. I wanted to build a lasting relationship but I wasn't sure where to start. I was worried people would judge me for choosing to date again. 

I went on dates that left me feeling disappointed. I felt hurt and misunderstood. But I kept on trying. At the bottom of my heart, I believed that I deserved to be loved and happy again despite my loss. 

After a while I understood what was holding me back. I realised I was terrified of getting hurt again. I knew what was the ultimate end of every love story; I was going to lose again. There is no happy ever after, I said to myself. Why would I let myself fall in love again knowing how much it hurts at the end? 

I was confronted with death too early, and it left a painful mark that needed addressing. Once I confronted myself with the fact that I was the one who was wasting my time trying to protect myself from the very thing that I crave the most; to feel loved and to love again, my dating experience transformed. 

As a psychologist, I have helped countless couples improve their relationship with themselves and their other half.

Upon completing this quiz, I will share with you my proven method for getting ready to love after loss.